For every opinion or thesis there is a antithesis or conflicting opinion.
I am sorry that for every wonderful adoption story there are equal or greater numbers of totally messed up lives. I really feel for you, I do.
I am not interested in entering into a debate about it. I blog to talk with like minded people and I have found them here. I am not going to ask you to agree with me. I am not going to try to win you over. This is a chronicle of my life. Some of it might hurt you to read, so be careful with your heart. I am going to be an adoptive mother at some point and I will do my very best to help my child understand what happened. I will never abuse them, I will never speak badly of their first family. You may choose to ask questions, I am not going to answer them all. I may not publish them all. To be honest, I am tired. This has been a long road for me and I don't wish to spend the last few weeks or months or even another year justifying it to people who don't like how I choose to live my life, and who I choose to include in it. There are two who I have responded to and you are welcome to continue to read and to comment, I do appreciate your politeness.
I'm just not going to be able to explain and debate in the way I think you'd like. That is not why I blog. Self-serving as it is, I blog as a way of journaling. I've "met" some wonderfully supportive people and that is how I am choosing to spend my blogging time.
Thanks for your understanding.