Thursday, November 13, 2008

A quiet week

This week has been quiet on the Adoption front. No calls, no leads, nothin, I've been blissfully fighting off a cold and reading Twilight, New Moon and Eclipse(Chapters 1-4). After two weekends of less than rest, I spent last weekend bumming around at home, and happy to do so! This weeks rain has turned into partly sunny skies and the promise of a trip to the dog park with my favorite man and dog. So long as these sniffles go away. It's nice to have a little calm.

6 comments:

Jessica@Foodmayhem said...

Feel better! We've been having very sporadic weather, one day 70 degrees, one day under 50 degrees...

Kelley said...

Thanks! I'm feeling pretty good now! Sniffles down to only a few every couple hours! YAY! I should even be able to go to the gym and swim tomorrow!

I hope your weather doesn't get too cold this winter! I'm hoping the same for my area! Mild would be nice!

MonicaW42 said...

I wish you luck with your adoption quest. My husband and I have had fertility issues from the beginning of our marriage. We went through the fertility program more than once spending a fortune. Then we just found out he is having the issues now. We finally had a heart to heart about adoption (he never wanted to before). He is very open to it now. It is something we will be actively pursuing after the holidays. There are alot of fears for me with this. Do you know of any good support groups out there? I'm not worried on the legal aspects as my husband is a an attorney (federal prosecutor). It's more the emotional end of it. Anyways, I just wanted to wish you the best. I get very emotional with anything involving children.

Kelley said...

I'm very excited for you! This is an amazing journey!
This is an infertility support group listing by state...
http://www.bethany.org/A55798/bethanyWWW.nsf/0/2ADAE403BB1003DF852574AC0047ACFC

These are Adopton support groups

http://www.bethany.org/A55798/bethanyWWW.nsf/0/A65500B44B39D1AF85256E2800647756

They are probably of a religious nature...honestly the best support I've gotten is from my adoption counselor and from people who've been through the process successfully. Talking to people one on one is my therapy, because I get a little discouraged by the "horror stories" and by people who don't know how I feel, telling me how I "must" feel. And I tend to get bogged down with too many emotions if I hear a lot of stories all at once :P so, feel free to chat with me over email any time you'd like. (there's a button on my profile)

What kind of adoptions are you thinking about? Have you chosen an agency? In my "experience" the agency makes a big difference. They're awesome at addressing fears right up front. You'll be fine. I know how it feels to want to be a mother and finding out there's something in the way. It will happen. God doesn't let a mother's heart go unused!

MonicaW42 said...

We have not chosen an agency yet. We are still in the very beginning stages of my husband accepting adoption. I would like to adopt locally or in the US. My aunt adopted from Haiti but it took a toll on her family. I appreciate the links and will check those out. Again its a roller coaster ride of emotions and trying to figure out which way to go.

Kelley said...

I know exactly what you mean. The rollercoaster doesn't stop with knowing which agency you're working with either. The whole process, and I am assuming the whole parenting experience is going to be full of ups and downs. I suppose the best thing to do is focus on the moment and try to do what is best for you, your husband and your child in the long run. Sounds easy right?:)
There is a relief that comes with "Passing" your homestudy and being available to be viewed by prospective birth parents.

If you have the financial resourses, I would choose an agency that charges fees for service. The charitable organizations and state programs are full of issues that just don't seem to work very smoothly and don't put your needs ahead of what the State wants. You might have different luck with that though if your husband works for your state.

I just know that I've heard some really dissapointing stories of people who work too closely with the State I live in. It's really a SAD state of affairs out here.

Keep your chin up, I know it's hard, and I know how emotionally draining and scary it can be. But having the baby will make it all worth while.