Tuesday, January 20, 2009

This Helped Me Let Go of the Little Guy Who Couldn’t be Ours

I can't tell you exactly why this passage helped, perhaps it was Solomon's words, "She Is His Mother", or perhaps it is the willingness of the first woman to sacrifice her own claim so that her child could live that touches me…all I know is that remembering her made it possible for me to write to "Little Guy's" birthmother and tell her how proud I am of her in the situation she is in. I wished her well and committed to pray for her and her son.

There is an application for this verse in the waiting process, and it has very little to do with the role of the Birthmother and the Adoptive mother, it has more to do with the sacrifice of self for child that both mothers must accept. Adoption is not about giving up and gaining. It is about the welfare of a tiny human-being; the welfare and care of a tiny human soul. Adoption is so much more important than what I will receive. The situation that comes up for me, will be the one most glorifying to God. Not the one that will bring me the swiftest relief to my desire for a child. I need to remember that and keep it in mind at all times.

Solomon Wisely Judges

16Then two women who were harlots came to the king and stood before him.

17The one woman said, "Oh, my lord, this woman and I live in the same house; and I gave birth to a child while she was in the house.

18"It happened on the third day after I gave birth, that this woman also gave birth to a child, and we were together. There was no stranger with us in the house, only the two of us in the house.

19"This woman's son died in the night, because she lay on it.

20"So she arose in the middle of the night and took my son from beside me while your maidservant slept, and laid him in her bosom, and laid her dead son in my bosom.

21"When I rose in the morning to nurse my son, behold, he was dead; but when I looked at him carefully in the morning, behold, he was not my son, whom I had borne."

22Then the other woman said, "No! For the living one is my son, and the dead one is your son." But the first woman said, "No! For the dead one is your son, and the living one is my son." Thus they spoke before the king.

23Then the king said, "The one says, 'This is my son who is living, and your son is the dead one'; and the other says, 'No! For your son is the dead one, and my son is the living one.'"

24The king said, "Get me a sword." So they brought a sword before the king.

25The king said, "Divide the living child in two, and give half to the one and half to the other."

26Then the woman whose child was the living one spoke to the king, for she was deeply stirred over her son and said, "Oh, my lord, give her the living child, and by no means kill him." But the other said, "He shall be neither mine nor yours; divide him!"

27Then the king said, "Give the first woman the living child, and by no means kill him. She is his mother."

28When all Israel heard of the judgment which the king had handed down, they feared the king, for they saw that the wisdom of God was in him to administer justice.

Dear Heavenly Father,

Thank you for "the first woman". Thank you for her selfless heroic attitude and love for her son. I pray that I can be as selfless and brave for the child you bless me with. Help me to remember this woman in every moment of self-indulgent thoughts. Thank you for a great, healing, conversation with my mother.

May my family bring you glory,


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