Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Then again, maybe I won't take a break.

I want to be an encouragement to others, I always want to be encouraging, even to the point of relaying my selfishness to others, but in doing so sometimes it sounds like (Boasting? Judgement? condescension?) you pick.

I am not a judgmental person, if someone asks my opinion I give it. I don't expect them to like it, or to go with my opinion. I tell it the way I see it, and if they're asking me a question about how I do something, I tell them like I did it. Sometimes I forget that people aren't like me. They don't just go with their own gut even when people tell them they did it differently. I just assume people want the story. I forget that sometimes when people ask for your story/take that they are in the most stressful situation of their life and just want someone to hold their hand, to pray for them and to take care of their feelings.

I'm sorry if I failed in that sense today or yesterday.



Tom/Lorraine said...

Hooray! We're glad you're still here!! :o)

Melba said...

You last post made me feel like laying down on the floor and throwing a temper tantrum, just to see if you would change your mind. Now this one has me grinning from ear-to-ear again. I REALLY wish you wouldn't go! I understand if you need to take a break, but yours is a blog I very much enjoy and it wouldn't be the same around here without your refreshing and inspiring presence.

Just my thoughts...


H said...

I love your honesty, Kel, and I'm sorry for over-reacting. You did what I asked...you gave me your opinion. That is exactly what I wanted...it's my fault for letting it bother me. For real. Please forgive me...I feel like every decision I'm making right now is life-changing, and it scares me to death. YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG; you were trying to help. Please don't stop blogging!!!!!

Kel said...

Melba, it's sweet to know you were ready to go to the floor on my behalf. I love you. Thank you!

Holly, I'll forgive you if you can forgive me for being insensitive. I know how you feel. This is a really tough time and a life changing time. My mom was really impatient with my mood when we were waiting for J. She kept telling me this should be the happiest time in my life. I think for people who are delivering a baby that is true, but for an adopting couple it is the most stressful and scary time in your life. Your dream is right there, you can almost taste it.

I love you as a sister in Christ and as a sister adoptive mom, you will get through this, you are doing the right thing, you know what is right for you, for R and for your little man and as hard as it is, you are doing it. I'm behind you all the way. No matter how many days he's in Interim Care, he'll be yours for a lifetime. And that is what really counts. I'll be praying for you!

Melba said...

And Holly - I just wanted to say (hopefully you will read this here) that I get what you are saying about how terrifying and HUGE every one of these decisions seems. It IS Scary, and I know I have felt in the past as though I have no clue about how to make such momentous decisions.

I too am praying for your situation, and thinking of you through this time.



Jamie said...

yay! :) i'm completely in the dark but i'm glad you're going to stay!! :) i'm friends with you on fb so i knew i could track you down if i wanted to haha! :)