Thursday, October 8, 2009


Do you ever get unsolicited advice from people that makes you wonder if they think you are stupid? Or like you just woke up one day and said, "I'm going to adopt a baby" and just put your name on a list on a wall somewhere? That you didn't do a dilligent ammount of research when you chose the agency you did, or the adoption path that you chose, or go through an entire process of getting ready for things and had meetings with experts. Just because they didn't wittness your journey prior to adoption, they want to make sure that you aren't forgetting how important something is?

I just want to say "Do you think I was born yesterday? That I haven't read books on adoption and how "This" works and what is important? Can you not be the "Expert" on educating oneself and just be happy? This is not your problem to solve! I am not a problem to solve. Can you just stop projecting your insecurities onto me? I am fine! I am confident, I am happy. Just be happy with me all right?!!"



Denver Jen said...

Amen sister!

Jamie said...

ugh....i'm sorry. it truly is amazing what we have deal with from others. don't you wish you could just REALLY say what was on your mind sometime?! :) hang in there!!

Life and Adoption! said...

I hear ya! we deal with it all the time, people are just fearful out of ignorance, and if they took them time to understand it all, it wouldn't be so scary. That has a lot to do with why I changed my blog address, honestly I wanted my family to stop reading so they wouldn't worry!! :)

Jennifer Christensen said...

What? You didn't wake up one morning and say "Today I'm going to adopt a baby" and then go pick one off the shelf? ;) Unsolicited advice is one of the most annoying forms of patience! Kudos for staying graceful (easy assumption) and venting it in your blog rather than say what you probably wanted to say. I've not always been so graceful and my MIL is the one with the questions and advice!